When Aging Parents Won’t Listen

Understanding the “Why” Behind the Resistance

When older parents push back against help or suggestions, it’s often about more than just the issue at hand. For many, accepting help feels like giving up control. That can bring up fear, frustration, and even grief. Acknowledging these emotions — rather than pushing through them — is a first step toward more meaningful conversations.

Tips to Open the Conversation

Approach the dialogue gently. Try asking open-ended questions instead of giving advice right away. “What’s been feeling hardest to manage lately?” can go farther than “You need help.” Use calm moments to talk, avoid ultimatums, and revisit the topic gradually over time. Change rarely happens after just one conversation — and that’s okay.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

These moments can be heavy for adult children trying to do the right thing. At WeSellToronto, we support families in transition — from planning for future moves to finding temporary care options or downsizing with dignity. If you’re unsure how to support your loved one, reach out. We’re here to help with compassion and real solutions.